With Valentine’s Day still fresh in her mind, sophomore Tonya Monteer has been looking back on her past relationships.
Monteer says she only talks to one of her exes but she tries not to because ex boyfriends or girlfriends are just not friend material.
According to randomhistory.com the most common time for couples to break up is anywhere from three to five months. The cause could be from anything but Monteer thinks the hardest break up to get over is when you have been cheated on.
“I think being friends with your ex all depends on how the relationship ended,” Monteer said. “If it was a messy break up, like if one of you cheated there is no way you could be friends because there would always be resentment in the relationship.”
Monteer thinks guys are more willing to be friends because they do not get as involved in the relationships as girls.
“I’m not saying you should not be friends with your exes I am just saying it will cause less drama with your new relationships,” Monteer said. “People are jealous.”
Freshman Dakota Peterson thinks being friends after a break up can be hard. He thinks exes are exes for a reason.
“It all depends because if it is a mutual break up then a lot of the time it will not be as hard to be friends,” Peterson said. “You have to be able to handle it and accept it.”
Peterson believes that guys are more willing to let go of the relationship, they just want it to be fast, short and painless. Girls on the other hand are more likely to still want to talk after it is over.
They want to be friends but it can get sticky.
Although Peterson thinks being friends with exes could be great, he thinks people are exes for a reason.
On the other hand, Sophomore Morgan Beckler thinks it is perfectly fine and normal to be friends with your ex because most relationships start out as good friendships and turn into something more.
“I don’t think it is a big deal having exes as friends,” Beckler said. “It is just a question of maturity, if one person can’t handle it your friendship will not work out.”
Beckler thinks the type of friendship that comes out of a relationship is always going to be different. She believes that you should not hang out one-on-one with an ex unless you think you can handle it, if you can’t handle the one on one hang out in a group.
Although she knows not all exes can be friends, she does believe that with time a friendship could form.